i don’t know about you guys, but i have a hard time extending grace to myself. i’m always really hard

i don’t know about you guys, but i have a hard time extending grace to myself. i’m always really hard on myself and never feel like it’s okay to not meet my own standards.

if i’ve planned to have a session edited by a certain time, i work so hard to get it done. but sometimes it’s just not feasible. sometimes i don’t meet that deadline i’ve set for myself and i get disappointed. if i don’t respond to e-mails within the same day, i feel like i’ve failed. and don’t even get me started on trying to have a blog post every day. if i choose not to post one for the day, i feel like my mass amount of followers (aka 2 readers) might forget me haha.

i’m not even a perfectionist haha. this business is just my baby and i want to take care of my clients. can you imagine how i’ll be if i ever have my own kids?! haha.

i stay up way too late working on editing and fall asleep on. my. computer. #truestory i go from my preschool job to this. don’t get me wrong. i LOVE it. i wouldn’t trade it for the world. sometimes i just forget that it’s okay to not be “perfect.” does anyone else ever feel like this? please say i’m not alone haha. i just wanted to put this out there and let you know that it’s okay not to always meet those goals right away. it’s okay to not be perfect. it’s okay to give yourself grace.

i have such a hard time with that. i hold myself to the standard of a full-time business owner. and while yes, i am a full-time business owner, i also have another full-time job. i have to sleep at some point. it’s okay to not fill the shoes of a “typical” full-time photographer yet. it’s okay to give myself grace. heck, maybe that’s why i keep getting sick haha. i never let myself full rest haha.

anyway, i just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone. ya know, if you’re going through this too. i’m right here with you. we can do this together. it’s okay to take a break. it’s okay to go to bed before you answer all of those e-mails. i promise. they won’t go anywhere and nobody will hate you for making them wait until the morning.

take care of yourself. you’re only human.


thanks to rachel, for grabbing this of me during elyshia and jon’s wedding! 🙂

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  • Thanks for revealing the thoughts of your heart to the readers! You’re making a difference already.

  • ASHLEY!!! You are the best, you’re so beautiful inside and out! and so much of what you wrote are things I struggle with also! It’s nice to know I’m not alone 🙂 And I’m the opposite…I go to bed early so I can get up early the next morning and edit!!! haha! Don’t you love the craziness? Can’t wait to room with you next week (eek!!) and love the photo of you in action! xoxo

  • Girl, I feel ya. I have really struggled with this recently too. I’ll be praying that you find some downtime for yourself in the near future!

  • You really hit the nail on the head with this post! I know exactly how you are feeling and though you should know, you are NOT alone in those feelings. Its easy to notice others success before your own, but you should also know that you probably touch more lives than you realize with your spirit and photography alone Ashley! It’s amazing and exciting to see your work and neat to, well go on these adventures with you just by looking at your photos! Exactly how I want to shoot myself. So just remember to give yourself a little more credit, because at the end of the day you know you are working extremely hard in two passions of yours and that will reward you alone.

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